
Ashley Tollakson
Attorney
I care about each and every one of my clients and will do everything I can to make sure that you are heard, informed, and comfortable.
I grew up in West Des Moines, Iowa, having graduated from Valley High School. I received my bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Spanish from the University of Iowa and my law degree from Drake University Law School. I was admitted to practice law in Iowa in 2009, and embarked on a career dedicated to helping families in transition/crisis.
Tollakson Law is committed to reclaiming the practice of law as a healing profession. We use innovative legal techniques, such as collaborative law, mediation, and negotiation, so we can help you dissolve your marriage with respect and dignity — with courtroom resolution only as a last resort. I am extremely passionate about helping families transition peacefully and launching them successfully post-divorce. I am a certified family law mediator and parenting coordinator and am an adjunct professor at Drake University.
I reside in Des Moines with my husband TJ, son Theo, daughters Drew and Frankie and dog, Murphy. Outside of my family and work, my other true love is running. Although I would like to say that I “just run for fun,” the truth is I am extremely competitive and love pushing myself to new personal bests. I have competed in more than seven marathons and hold a personal best time of 2:44:06 for the 26.2-mile distance. My proudest running accomplishment to date is having qualified for and competed in the 2012 Olympic Marathon Team Trials. Toeing the line with the best women marathon runners in the United States was an experience I will always cherish.

Brittany Sandler
Attorney
My favorite question to ask a client is, “What are your overall goals?” I believe it’s important to set goals at the beginning, not only for what you ultimately want to achieve but also for how you want to maintain integrity throughout the process.
I’m a native Iowan. I thought I would live forever in Northeast Iowa until life brought me to Des Moines for law school in 2013. I also thought I’d forever be an only child until my mother remarried and I became the youngest sister to two older sisters and an older brother (we decided from the beginning there are no “steps” in our family). On Christmas Day 2015, I gained my proudest title to date: Aunt. My niece has become the centerpiece of our blended family and has shifted my focus toward more family-oriented activities and gatherings in my free time. While I no longer live in Cedar Rapids, you can usually find me there at our family cabin, or with my dad who, after 27 years, still enthusiastically obliges when I ask him to teach me his talent — playing guitar.
I graduated from Kirkwood Community College in Cedar Rapids with an associate of arts degree and a paralegal certificate, then from the University of Iowa in Iowa City with my bachelor of science in political science, then from Drake University Law School in Des Moines with my juris doctorate. I was admitted to practice law in Iowa in 2017. My dedication to the legal profession is nearly a decade old and my commitment to helping others has been lifelong.
I worked in law firms while obtaining my undergraduate and graduate education. During that time, I helped those who were hurting, gave advice from a place of true compassion and celebrated the successes clients who became the best version of themselves while striving to overcome their hardships. I want you to know I will sit with you and listen. I will offer you support and sound advice, and I will be there to celebrate your successes.

Alice
Administrative Assistant
After growing up all over the Midwest, I have decided to call Iowa my “home.” I’ve worked with Ashley Tollakson and Brittany Sandler as an administrative assistant since January of 2017. I enjoy welcoming clients into our office and take pride in providing clients a safe, calm and trusting environment. It’s incredibly rewarding to have a front row seat to our clients’ growth and transformation. I also assist with administrative tasks such as scheduling and client billing.
Above all else, family is the most important thing to me. I’m a firm believer in taking time to enjoy the little things because life is short. Outside of work, I try to unplug and spend time with my husband, Alex, our son, Otto, and our two dogs, Manny and Harley. We enjoy finding new parks and trails to explore, but our favorite places include Jester Park, Raccoon River Park, and Greenwood Park.

Shannon
Paralegal
I have wanted to be in the legal profession since I was a young girl. I always remember my Nana telling me that this was the field I needed to be in and it makes me proud to bring her vision to light.
I graduated from Des Moines Area Community College in 2017 received my Associates in Science and Paralegal Certificate. I have taken two mediation courses and am certified in general and family law. I am also currently enrolled at Grandview University to obtain my Bachelors in Science with a Psychology minor. After Grandview I plan to enroll in Drake Law School. Law is truly my passion. I am fueled by the process within the courts and being able to be a part in helping clients maneuver through their legal obstacles. I truly feel like I can connect with all of the clients I have worked with in one way or another and it is my goal to assure them the comfort and compassion deserved.
I currently reside in Grimes with my husband, Nick, daughter, Teagin, and two sons, Henry and Jackson. We also have a couple of crazy pups named Saki and Ragnar. Our house is never quiet or boring, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. My husband and I enjoy finding new tasks to better our family and future. We all love being outside, being together, and visiting with family. Aside from my Nana, my family are the people that drive me to keep pushing to better myself, not for me, but for them.
As hard as divorce is, I can't imagine handling it any other way. The last thing I wanted to do was to go to court. To this day, my ex-husband and I have a very respectable relationship, and we both give 100% of the credit to working with Ashley and the Collaborative Law process.
Tiffany
Ashley helped me during a tragic loss in my life. The loss of my marriage. She helped me understand my choices and gave me time to reconcile my heart. She did a wonderful job in helping me to understand the law but also thinking through the consequences of my actions and the emotional and financial impact. Ashley is one of the strongest people I know. She knows how to hold you in your suffering while protecting you. She never shared more than was needed to ease my burden but had the situation under control during the whole process. I will forever be thankful for her steady and loving hand.
Jennifer B.
I thoroughly enjoyed working with Ashley. She listens and genuinely cares about her clients; and is willing to go to bat for whatever is needed. She very successfully assisted me with an agreement that has provided me peace of mind, flexibility and most importantly; protection for my family. She's very organized and really took the time to explain the process to me, in addition to providing documentation and answers to any questions along the way.
Gwen P.
The services I have received from Ashley Tollakson and all with Tollakson Law have been stellar. The experience in dealing with difficult situations shines through in the results achieved. I recommend this group of experts for anyone needing representation with family law matters.
John M.
I highly recommend Ashley, Guardian Ad Litem! Finding a good Guardian Ad Litem to help you successfully navigate Family court is very, very difficult. I am a single, African/American male and I had an unusually complicated child custody case. Bottom line, family court can be very scary and unpredictable. I met with Ashley at her office. Ashley spent about an hour really listening to me explain my situation, answering my questions and offering advice on how we should move forward. I took my daughter to Ashley’s office. Ashley spoke to my daughter (without me). When it was over—they both came out of the office with big smiles. During the hearing, Ashley represented my daughter well! She communicated with my daughter, wrote an excellent letter of recommendation, and spoke highly of my daughter to the judge. She addressed our concerns clearly and compassionately. She explained my daughter’s foundation, current family life and future goals and potential. Child custody can be very stressful, frustrating and scary. shley had our best interest in mind—as a person and as a client. Throughout the entire process Ashley did everything she could to make sure our outcome could be as successful as possible. Thank you Ashley keeping our family together.
Ricky